Sexuality Statement Game

Examples of possible statements:

1. BODY (DEVELOPMENT) & BOUNDARIES

• A woman with big breasts is more beautiful than a woman with small breasts.
• It’s important to look good. Girls from fashion magazines are a good example to look up to. 
• The more body hair a man has, the more masculine he is.
• If a girl is wearing a short skirt, she is asking for it.
• Once you have said 'yes', you have to follow through.
• Remaining silent is agreeing to have sex.
• Only girls and women are victims of sexually transgressive behaviour.
• If someone resists enough, he/she cannot be raped.
• Rape usually happens at night on the streets by a stranger.
• You cannot be raped by your girl-/boyfriend.
• If girls say "no", they actually mean "yes".
• Once a guy is turned on, he can no longer control his urges.
• ...

2. Relationships

• You can only fall in love with one person.
• If you love someone, you can change him/her.
• Jealousy is a sign of love.
• Love is a decision.
• The more you are in love, the more you want to share.
• Sex and love have nothing to do with one another.
• You can remain friends after your boy/-girlfriend breaks up with you.
• The best base for love is friendship.
• There is a perfect partner out there for everyone.
• Love only has to do with your heart, not with your mind.
• If my friends don't like my boy/-girlfriend, I break up with him/her.
• Falling in love with someone from a different culture often causes difficulties.
• ...

3. Gender & sexual orientation

• Women are not good leaders.
• Men do not care about their appearance.
• Women also look at men as sex objects.
• Gay men can kiss in public.
• Holebisexuality is just a phase.
• Gay and lesbian couples should be allowed to adopt children.
• Lesbian girls are and act no different than heterosexuals. 
• In gay couples there's always a masculine and a feminine type.
• ...

4. Safe sex (reproduction, contraceptives & STDs)

• Having a lot of sex makes you popular.
• Casual sex is okay, as long as you're being safe.
• In a relationship, it's the man's choice whether or not you use a condom.
• You can have a sexual relationship with more than one person at the same time.
• It's easier to please girls with a big penis.
• The guy is not responsible for the girl's orgasm.
• Coming at the same time during sex is not the most important.
• If you're in a steady relationship, it's not okay to masturbate.
• Only boys masturbate, girls do not do this.
• Abortion should be free of charge.
• If a girl takes the pill, her boyfriend should pay half of it.
• People who get infected with HIV, only have themselves to blame.
• When a girl gets pregnant when she’s 14, it’s her own fault.
• 16-year-old girls can be very good moms.
• Women should decide for themselves if they smoke when being pregnant. After all, it’s their body, and their life.
• It's the girl's responsibility to make sure there is a contraceptive, since she is the one that can get pregnant.
• Only gay people have anal sex.
• You should not have sex before you're married.
• ...

5. Sex & media

• Chatting is a great way to get to know new people.
• It's easier to share things online than it is in real life.
• It’s normal to exchange phone numbers when you’ve been chatting with somebody online for some time.
• People who send nudes are asking for them to be sent to others.
• Nude pictures can be very beautiful.
• If you are in a steady relationship, you have to send nudes to your boy-/girlfriend if he/she asks for it.
• Porn sites give you a realistic image of sex.
• Watching porn is good for young people.
• Girls should not watch porn.
• Kids from the age of 12 should be allowed to watch porn sites.
• Sex in real life is not like in the movies/on TV.
• ...

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This activity is a part of the StreetSmart sexuality package. The package aims to give youth workers the tools they need to address the topic of sexuality in a playful way with the children and young people they work with, so they can learn to make conscious, healthy and respectful decisions.

Sexuality is a very broad term, encompassing various subtopics. Here, you can find a list of all activities included in our sexuality package to address these different topics:

1. Sexuality in general: The Sex Alphabet, The Sexuality Goose Game, Yes or No Circle, Sexuality Statement Game
2. Body (development): Anatomy fundamentals, Who has what?, Physical changes in puberty, Emotional changes in puberty, Life Cycle
3. Boundaries: Stop!, People to People, Kiss the Teddy Bear, Body Carrousel, (Not) Okay?, Body Twister 
4. Relationships: Choose Your Relationship, My Ideal Partner, In The Worst Way Possible
5. Gender & sexual orientation: Labels, Sex Change, Who does what?
6. Safe sex: The Synonym Game, Condom Smugglers, Goodie Bag, STD-Roulette, Can I get pregnant?
7. Sex & media: Who is responsible?

• Sliding scale: Tell the players that in the room/playing field there is an invisible sliding scale. The far left side is "very much", the far right side "not at all" and the space in between varies from "a lot" to "a little". After the game leader has read a statement, the players will indicate to what extent they do or do not agree with a statement by positioning themselves on the sliding scale.
• Build up: If it's difficult for the group to state their opinion, you can work up to it. The players can just take their position at first without expressing their opinion or giving different arguments. In a second round you could ask the players in one position (e.g. all players that stepped forwards) to have a small group discussion to phrase different arguments and to appoint one spokesperson for the group. Gradually, you can build up to all players expressing their opinion individually.
• Topic: You can easily vary the statement game to discuss either sexuality as a whole or a specific subtopic (e.g. gender, safe sex, ...).
• Age: You can easily adapt the statement game to be suitable for all age groups by adapting the statements.

• Learn to talk about sexuality.
• Learn how to respectfully express your opinion & listen to the opinion of others.
• Raise awareness regarding yours and others' frame of reference, values & standards.