Who is responsible?

Hang up a "clothesline" (a piece of rope) in a room or put it on the ground.

Give each player a piece of paper and ask them to write down their name on it. Give each player 1 clothespin as well.

Explain that the clothesline represents a scale. The far left represents the offender, the far right the victim.

Read one of the statements (see additional game info) out loud.

The players decide who bears most responsibility for the outcome of the situation.

They visualise their answer by attaching their name on the clothespin. The closer they attach their name to the offender, the more responsibility they think he/she has and the other way around.

Afterwards, asks some players to say why they put their name where they put it.

Have a more in-depth discussion at the end of the game (after having read some or all of the statements), asking questions such as:

• Has a similar situation ever happened to someone you know/to you?
• How did or would you react in this situation?
• Is it always your fault if something like this happens?
• Who can play a role in situations like these?
• Who generally bears most responsibility in this type of situations: the offender or the victim. Why?
• If someone does something consciously, are they automatically guilty?
• What do you do if someone sends you a nude?
• How can you sext in a safe way?
• ...

With the players discuss how you can sext in a safe way, e.g.: ask consent, make clear agreements and respect them, don't share nude pictures with others, do not pressure others or let yourself be pressured, if you send a nude make sure your face is not visible and that the background is not recognisable, ...